The study of the global regulatory mechanisms controlling pathogen virulence gene expression is key to understanding the underlying mechanisms of pathogenicity. 6mA plays a critical role in regulating gene expression in response to various environmental stresses, but its biological functions related to pathogen virulence remain largely unexplored. We report the widespread presence of 6mA across 17 isolates of nematodes, along with an exploration of the 6mA landscape in the genomes of six notorious agricultural pathogen root-knot nematodes (RKNs). Our results indicate that 6mA has a conserved GAG motif in different nematodes but exhibits different distribution patterns and effects on gene expression. The distribution of 6mA in transposable elements differs between polyploid and diploid nematodes, suggesting lineage-specific epigenetic regulation potentially associated with polyploidy. Importantly, we identified two potential 6mA demethylases, MiNMAD-1 and MiNMAD-2, and confirmed their catalytic activity and site. Subsequent host-induced gene silencing of minmad-1 resulted in a significant increase in plant resistance to three polyploid RKNs species. A detailed functional characterization revealed that knocking down minmad-1 impaired the expression patterns of various virulence genes in the parasitic stage, thereby decreasing the virulence of RKNs on hosts. Our findings suggest that 6mA demethylase may serve as an epigenetic marker linked to pathogen virulence, enhancing our understanding of RKN biology and providing novel resources for the development of RKN prevention and control strategies.